Creativity, Relaxation, Gratitude & Mindfulness

 Creativity, Relaxation, Gratitude and Mindfulness

Relaxation, Mindfulness, Gratitude and Creativity are fundamental to your well being, and to assist with your healing, inner and outer balancing and replenishing.

“It is impossible to feel grateful and depressed in the same moment.” 


There is creativity at the base of everything that we do, if we open to it .

Sadness, disappointment and hurt leave us depleted and a bit empty over time. We forget how to laugh, to play, to enjoy the ‘juices’ of creativity and aliveness.  We are left with boredom and emptiness.   This is what I notice in a lot of my clients who come for therapy and support.

“Turn down the volume of those insecure voices in your head…. and you will find your own unique story to share through creativity”                       Suzanne Yost McCourt in INCITE 3 The Art of Storytelling.

I also notice that when people start to recover and heal, re-find themselves and their inner and outer balance, they start to turn to creative activities and sometimes to a more healthy spiritual opening.  They become re-inspired, a bit more spontaneous and more connected.

This could be ‘creativity’ in journaling, writing, painting and crafts, woodwork, dance, starting to exercise, playing spontaneously with ones children, decorating ones home, how you run your business and so on. There is an aliveness and desire to live more fully and creatively, and to be more healthily engaged in life.

“Look around you for inspiration and then look again; the smallest thing can trigger your creative juices. Everything has a story to tell; be sure you look close enough to hear it!”   Tonia Jenner in Incite 3  The Art of Storytelling.

Please contact me if you are interested in exploring aspects of you personal creativity finding different ways to find and tell your unique life stories.

“I found I could say things with colour and shapes that I couldn’t say any other way – things I had no words for”    Georgia O’Keefe    Artist

Relaxation as a remedy for being tired and wired

“We need to look at how our lifestyles and everyday habits perpetuate a vicious cycle where we ricochet back and forth between feeling wired and tired”.            Patrick Holford in The Stress Cure.

While a small amount of manageable stress is healthy, excessive on-going stress tightens and exhausts the body, mind and emotions.  We rush around, replay out old habit patterns, worry, get reactive, fight with our loved ones and so on.  Creative solutions and easy healthy connections are hard to find.

So, why do I feel happy, connected and open to possibilities when I am relaxed, and stressed, tired, sore and stuck when I am not?    On-going excessive stress and worry releases hormones in the body that can change the biology of the body, and affects the central and para-sympathetic nervous systems.  This affects our energy levels and actual well being in the body. We start to feel exhausted and our day to day functioning becomes harder.  The  body gets ill, with headaches and body aches, high blood pressure, diabetes, reduced fertility, insomnia, arthritis, and later life illnesses.

Emotional stress and worry is also exhausting in and of itself. It uses up a lot of energy to manage

So it becomes essential to learn to relax more and learn how to manage our daily stress and worries.


Please follow this link to read more about Learning to Relax and if you are interested in doing some work in this area.


Learning to relax

This approach is based on the principle that the human mind carries its own dignity and healing capacity which can never be permanently damaged or destroyed. This is most obviously expressed in moments of relaxed openness, moments of calmness and stillness, and tranquillity.

Most of the time our lives are busy and stressful, and we tend to move from one experience to the next – with little awareness that this kind of relaxed openness is actually available to us all the time. This is especially so in difficult times, when our body and mind tend to tighten up, and we tend to identify with aspects of our experience in a harder and more solid way, and creative choices and solutions seem limited or impossible.

Generally when the mind is in a relaxed state, creative solutions are easier to find. This open quality of mind is natural to all of us. Relaxation and awareness practices are generally thought to be helpful.  Through Learning to Relax, we want to build on this and help calmer states of mind to become a stable part of our day to day life.

Learning to relax is a stand alone course in which the benefits of developing calmer states of mind and body are explored and experienced. Specific relaxation/visualisation exercises are introduced as well as how to get started with the practice of simple massage and self massage (optional), as well as other simple physical and coordinating exercises.

Tara Rokpa Therapy

Tara Rokpa therapy keeps the methods taught by Akong Rinpoche (a meditation master and renowned Tibetan medical doctor) as its core, but it also draws on several well established western psychotherapy traditions. The contribution of several key professional therapists/specialists in the UK has deepened and broadened this approach (family therapist, psychiatrist, addiction therapist/specialist, art therapist, massage therapist and psychotherapist etc).

  • It seeks to build a bridge between these eastern and western traditions.
  • The basis is a deep exploration of limitless compassion as the key agent of healing.
  • It benefits people of all ages, race and religions. (it is non denominational)
  • one benefit is to start to mature and stabilise the mind (which included emotions and thought).

For more information and to get dates for upcoming courses on relaxation, please phone me on 011 794-2313; 082 294-4575

Tara Rokpa Therapy



It is really hard to feel grateful when you are feeling lonely, resentful, exhausted;   everything seems bleak and we feel hard done by, self pitying, dissatisfied with our life, our relationships, work, home – everything. Nothing seems to work, or it takes so much effort.  In these moments, we lose sight of what we actually DO have, what we have achieved, what we have survived, what we managed to create (despite ourselves!).

So how do we learn to open up again to what we DO have, who we are…. and re-find the gratitude and appreciation that is so easily lost and forgotten?

“For years I’ve been advocating the power and pleasure of being grateful…….I know for sure that appreciating whatever shows up for you in life changes your personal vibration. You radiate and generate more goodness for yourself when you’re aware of all you have and not focusing on your have-nots.”                Oprah Winfrey


What is Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the basic human ability to be fully present, aware of where you are and what you are doing, how you are feeling, thinking and what is happening in your body.  It is also awareness of what is going on around you, what is happening with other people and other situations.

It  means NOT getting too reactive or overwhelmed by what is going on around you.   And most importantly, doing this with kindness and compassion – with yourself and with others.

To read more, please follow this link